The poet Shel Silverstein wrote one of my favorite poems about raising children. I don't know that he necessarily wrote it about that, but in an ill-fated attempt to paint it on my children's bathroom wall many years ago, that is how I love it:“My skin is kind of sort of brownish Pinkish yellowish white. My eyes are greyish blueish green, But I'm told they look orange in the night. My hair is reddish blondish brown, But it's silver when it's wet. And all the colors I am inside Have not been invented yet.”When we take on the care of a new human being, our own colors often take a back seat. How do we take care of ourselves and our own hopes, needs and dreams when we have a tiny human being who needs everything, and we are the ones meeting those needs?
You are worth taking care of.
If you hear nothing else, please know that is true. And there are ways to strategize taking care of you and your children who are so precious, too.
When my children were toddlers I learned a great deal about self care and balancing family care and I lost 85 lbs in the process. I also gained back my sense of value and autonomy in the midst of the swirl of young children and all that that season demands from us in our parenting.
Whether you are a brand new parent, or you are being faced with an unprecedented struggle in your parenting, I offer clients help to find ways to take care of themselves while also taking care of their child. Please feel free to reach out so we can make a plan together to make sure your needs are being met too. I am available for online coaching, or evening hours, to make this easier for parents who are juggling many things.