The Hints And Verbs Of Our Hurts

You are worth listening to. All of you. Emily Freeman says, “Tears are tiny messengers sent from the deepest part of who we are, carrying with them a most important message: Here is where your heart beats strong. Here is a hint to your design.” 

What does it mean to come home to our bodies? What does it look like to listen to our wrenched knee, our tweaked back, the chronically tight spot that won’t stop aching? Pounding migraines, relentless insomnia, skin problems, cancer, cutting our bodies, eating disorders, diabetes, the tightness in our chest of grieving, weight problems... the way we relate to our bodies says so much. Whether it’s the adrenaline thumping under our throat when insecurity surfaces, the can’t-get-out-of-bed exhaustion that keeps us from feeling our old spark, or the hot pink on our cheeks when we feel misunderstood yet again and just don’t know how to explain ourselves  - every cell of our bodies plays a part in telling the story of who we are, who we were and what we want.

What do you really want? For many that question is tricky to both navigate and accomplish, sometimes we have to start where our body talks.

You are worth listening to. Your heart, your hips, your aches, your longings, your dreams and losses, your celebrations and uncertainties are all worth paying attention to. Together our bodies, emotions, and relationships form a constellation - a pattern like the stars that led old travelers from somewhere unfamiliar to the new place where they wanted to end up. Sometimes we need a companion to help us chart that course together.

The author Frederick Buechner says:
“You never know what may cause them. The sight of the Atlantic Ocean can do it, or a piece of music, or a face you’ve never seen before. A pair of somebody’s old shoes can do it…. You can never be sure. But of this you can be sure. Whenever you find tears in your eyes, especially unexpected tears, it is well to pay the closest attention. They are not only telling you something about the secret of who you are, but more often than not God is speaking to you through them of the mystery of where you have come from and is summoning you to where... you should go next.”

The story of our emotions plays a deep part in coming home to our bodies, our perspective, beliefs, habits and relationships are all other clues in making the connection as to how to live healthfully and realize what it is we most want. As a coach I help people make those connections, I help empower them to be in charge of their bodies, and to know how to understand it and take care of it when it talks.

I am here to help if you need a companion to help make the connections between your thoughts, your emotions, and what is going on in your body. Please feel free to reach out here if this is something you'd like to talk about.