“All improvements, transformations, achievements, liberations; everything you want to change about yourself and your life; everything you want to make happen, any obstacle you want to overcome, any crisis you must survive—the prerequisite is being able to allow yourself to feel whatever it is you feel and not pretend to feel something you don’t.”
- Augusten Burroughs
The question we so often have, though, is how do we do this? The hallmarks of physical and emotional health are knowing how to meet our own needs, set boundaries, and regulate our emotions. It is very difficult to do these things, however, unless we have a healthy and loving connection with ourselves. This process of either repairing, improving, or establishing that connection can be assisted in the presence of a non-judgmental, curative relationship with a coach.
Building trust with our emotions and bodies means learning to be present with ourselves and know our own strengths, caring for ourselves without judgment and with great compassion, and ultimately being able to take practical steps towards achieving the health and connection that we most deeply want. That is what I partner to help each of my clients do. According to clinical psychologist Dr. Sue Johnson, the role of therapists is not to fix but to access and walk through painful experiences with their clients. Coaches, she says, help correct misguided assumptions, teach skills, and create wise insight.
"The field of health coaching has become increasingly sophisticated as it draws from a growing body of evidence-based coaching psychology, positive psychology, adult learning theory, motivational interviewing (MI), and new findings in neuroscience. Health coaches tap into theoretical frameworks and conceptual models including self-determination theory, adult development theory, learning theory, MI, transtheoretical model, social cognitive theory, internal family systems, locus of control, self-efficacy model, appreciative inquiry, and nonviolent communication techniques. The training and education for health coaches concentrate on more than 50 years of research in social psychology, health promotion, organizational leadership, behavioral and positive psychology, and the latest findings in neuroscience and the workings of the brain." - Coaching vs Psychotherapy in Health and Wellness: Overlap, Dissimilarities, and the Potential for Collaboration; Meg Jordan, PhD, RN, CWP, United States; John B. Livingstone, MD, FRSH (UK), United States
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